Markus's 2nd birthday

My son was born 2 yrs ago on August 2nd. Last year for his first birthday I had a small party for him at his Grandparents home in Cambridge. My good friends Andra and Ulf and their two kids that live in Oshawa drove all the way to Cambridge for it. I had the party a week before because of the long week end. I made a car cake and Krystina, my MIL had some of her friends there that live down the street. It was a nice party. Here are some pictures from last year.

This year, I thought we would do pretty much the same thing. Go to the grandparents and have a bbq. I will make a guitar cake this year and some scalloped potatoes. Andra and Ulf and their boys will be coming as well. I will also do something special on the 3rd of August with the kids I babysit for Markus's birthday, so they can be involved as well with making the cake etc.

Last week on Sunday, we asked my MIL for the key card back to our building because I lost mine. She cried and made a big deal out of it. I got angry and let her know it. By the end of our heated argument, I told her we appreciate her and we love her. She is a mother who is afraid to let go. I am glad we had that blow out though, I wish it was a bigger blow out but she had friends over. There was so much I wanted to say to her. In any case, before I leave to teacher's college, hopefully we will still get to have our discussion about boundary setting.

Yesterday was my last counselling session with Tom. The counsellor still recommended that we see her one more time before I leave and that we may consider individual counselling once I do leave because this year will be hard for both of us. We did well, we were both aware of the situation and our feelings about leaving and we got advice on how to handle it so that Markus still knows I am his mom and so that Markus does not feel abandoned or rejected. She suggested that on week ends, I should try to find an hour where I can have alone time with just him and myself, mother and son. I felt a lot better when we left that we will try to do the right thing.

Happy 2nd birthday to Markus. It will be fun.