Markus is a very active, creative and funny (oh so funny) kid. I look at him and think how lucky I am to have such a wonderful boy. I can't believe at times, his father and I made this boy who has a completely different personality than his dad and myself. He may have the best parts of both of us.
Markus will sometimes tell us he is pretending to be sonic, which means faster than the speed of light. Then he will run back and fourth in our long hallway. Even when we tell him to do something, he can completely tune us out and do his own thing. These qualities that I love about him, also can be difficult when trying to get him to focus on a task at hand. As a stay at home mom, I sometimes, wish that I had other moms to share stories with and get some normalcy in my life. Perhaps, someone who can relate and tell me that their son does the same thing. If anything, I think it is wonderful that Markus can go to any kid on the park and introduce himself as "batman" or "spiderman". Yet, my MIL expressed to me some embarrassment when they go to the park and she said the other kids look at him like he is weird, but the older kids are more understanding. I became very defensive because, first of all, he is a creative kid. Secondly, I look at is as being the other kids problem because they are just not that creative or they do not know how to play. Some parents have their kids so busy all the time, that they forget what unstructured play is like, if they have ever had it. Yoshe, my twin sister, an elementary school teacher can go to the park with him and if other kids find it odd, my sister starts to interact with Markus in a very elaborate voice in front of the other children. Yoshe becomes very animated and shows such charisma, that the other children start to play along and they just needed some help from an adult. Someone to say, it is okay, we are safe and we just want to play. But, with my MIL, she is not around kids a lot and does not have the same child like enthusiasm, my twin has. Admittedly so, I am jealous and wish I had the same positive character and love of life that she has. She can remain optimistic, even with having basal cell carcinoma. I will write more about that later, because it is just another worry, but I am there to support my sister in any way I can.
This post is about my 4 yr old son, the most imaginative and creative boy I know. It begs the question, what is his behavior like at school? would his teachers let me know if there were any problems in his social development? Simply put, is he making friends okay? Does he get along with others? What can I do as a parent to help?
Overall, I have no worries about him. Most of my worries are about other kids with him. Markus is such a sweet kid, great with his little sister and not a mean kid. If there is anything I can say about it, I can' emphasize enough, how he is not a mean kid. He doesn't have it in him, like some children whose behavior needs to be corrected. I have seen children not so nice, but they are just children, it could be they have older siblings or their parents speak a certain way to them. It just needs to be corrected...Oh no, I realize that re-reading this post, I sound like a am a helicopter mom that worries way too much and by all means I don't want to sound like my boy is so great in comparison to anyone else. If that is what people hear, I am making myself misunderstood. I was angry at my MIL for not understanding the play of a 4 yr old and for making me doubt a little bit if Markus is any different from other 4 yr old's. I know my son and I love him just the way he is, a friendly, charismatic and high energy kid, just like his crazy aunt Yoshe. That ain't bad. I count my blessings every day that I have two healthy and happy kids. It's crazy, how I look at Markus and think he is nothing like me when I was a child. I was shy and awkward and he is anything but shy. But, I will save that for another post.
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